Manipulative people are those that use people for their own self gratification, their own needs and self importance. A very disrespectful, and just plain mean display of power. A person that is a chronic user, has issues they themselves are dealing with, and have turned to using and manipulating are not just fulfilling a temporary need, but they are also trying to feel an emptiness within themselves, issues, problems, concerns that they have yet to face. But those peope will play and toss you about like a cat with a ball of ribbon, like a tool to get their work done and to satisfy their own narcissistic needs until the task for the feeling is complete. They will not compromise, unless there is gain for themselves and knowing them is temporary as well. You may have whirlwind of a time while with them but once you are used up, you are used up and poof they are in the wind.
I think we have all have been perpetrators in these deeds in one way shape, or form for money, time. etc. Most of us know it, either feel bad about it or move on from the person, maintaining awareness of the deed and making amends in their own way. But the consumate user, those are to whom I am speaking. Those that specifically target a person’s weakness, kindness, love and joyfulness and attempt to harness it to be used to their advantage whilst draining the poor unsuspecting person.
They spread an infection!!!, they spread an infection of hurt, hate, loss, pain. Those they use go off and either hurt others, or guard their heart emotions and they block a potential blessing of love, because they now live in fear.
Infected and now Living in Fear:
You have been used, manipulated and discarded. You have been drained and used to a point that you are unsure how to love, if you can love, and how to trust.
You must get to a point of building and maintaining self worth and understanding that love and kindness not only exisit but that you deserve it. That the person that has used you and targeted you, has their own problems they may have fed on you like a plate of meatloaf, gravy with a side of tators, but you can rebuild and rejuvenate. Look at at they used you for, they never saw the YOU!!!, so the manipulation although it was you that was hurt, it was not you that they wanted. So don’t look at yourself as the problem, the person, the user was the problem. They just wanted what you had, so take solace that they only wanted to fulfill a need like a vampire.
Infected and wanting to hurt others:
Then you are left with a pile of mess, Fear, pain, worry, self doubt and heart break. You want revenge, you want them to hurt. You have to realize they are alrady hurt and already in pain that why they do what they do. If you begin hurting others and using and manipulating, you become them. You lose yourself that you are working so hard to build, you will become something that will block the blessing of the right person to walk into your life. You must not work on revenge, but being able to rebuild with help from God and recognizing you meant nothing, but a means to an end for them. It may take time and you may never see it, but trust me they will reap what they sow if they continue this path. You have to continue a msssion to right their wrongs and hopfully call them out with your success. To inform them by your growth that they did not win.
Triage for yourself
Ask yourself a few questions:
What is it about you? Are you lonely, do you have your own proclivity’s that someone could feed off of? Do you require a lot of time, and conversation? Is it money, or lack there of? What is it they used and manipulated you for, and start to work on guarding that. If its your heart, love, emotions then watch for the signs, how to detect them, what grabbed your heart, your soul, and then you can guard against them. Don’t share your woes with anybody, until they have earned the right to receive and know about you. Users can spot pain, issues they will feed on it. Learn from this and but don’t repeat their actions, don’t hurt innocent people because you have been hurt, you will spread more fear more pain until it has infected the masses.
Its their mission, that’s what they do, on to the next one. You were just a means to an end, an agenda marked off on their calendar. You may have been targeted, used you, hurt you but they are the ones who are wrong. Of course you will blame yourself, once you awaken from the fog of deceit, you will realize who they were.
Remember, Maniuplators, users, bullies are all people built full of insecurities full of their own pain and instead of facing it they have chosen to punish others. They themesleves have been victims and have been abused. But don’t have pity for these people, because they have chozen to target the innocent and feed and temporaty place a band aid over their own wounds.
Just be happy that they moved on, think about what you were doing, what they did for you and what could have happened if they stayed. Good Riddens and if they are still in your life, Let them go and move on!!!
I often wish I could scream atop the highest mountain
And warn of you
I saw you coming but I did not duck, I walked into the line
So how can I complain for being shot and bleeding
I am healing, you have gone and I have survived although wounded
you did not win
God has seen your wickedness and although I cannot
Point and shout “He is not who he says he is”!!!
I will simply be still, for God will handle this
God will be victorious
You will lie upon the heap of hearts you have broken, as yours
Is bleeding from his vengeance
Just know I see you!!!!!